Tips on how to deal with Tantrums

Tantrums. We’ve all been there. Our kid is screaming, crying, and rolling around on the ground, and we’re just standing there like a deer in headlights. What do we do?

First of all, it’s important to stay calm. I know that’s easier said than done, but it’s really important. When we get upset, it only makes the tantrum worse. So take a deep breath, remind yourself that this is just a phase, and try to figure out what’s causing the tantrum.

Once you know what’s causing the tantrum, you can try to address it. If your kid is hungry, feed them. If they’re tired, put them to bed. If they’re overstimulated, take them to a quiet place. If they’re just being a pain in the neck, well, there’s not much you can do about that.

One of the best things you can do during a tantrum is to ignore it. I know, that sounds counterintuitive, but it works. When we give in to our kids’ demands during a tantrum, we’re teaching them that tantrums are an effective way to get what they want. So ignore them. Let them scream and cry until they get tired of it.

Of course, there are times when you can’t ignore a tantrum. If your kid is throwing a tantrum in a public place, you might need to remove them from the situation. Or, if they’re hurting themselves or someone else, you need to intervene. But in general, the best thing you can do is to ignore it.

Here is a tantrum story that I went through:

My son is now 23 years old, but I’ll never forget the time he had a tantrum over ice cream 19 years ago. He was 4 years old at the time, and we were at home. He wanted to get more ice cream out of the freezer, but I said no. He threw himself on the ground and started kicking and screaming. He cried so hard that I almost gave in, but I knew that if I did, he would learn that tantrums are a way to get what he wants. So I took a deep breath and stood my ground.

My son continued to cry and scream for a while, but eventually he got tired and stopped. He got up and walked away, still looking angry. But I knew that I had done the right thing. I had taught him that tantrums are not an effective way to get what he wants.

A few minutes later, my son came back to me and said, “Daddy, I’m sorry for throwing a tantrum.”

I smiled and said, “I love you, buddy. And I’m proud of you for apologizing.”

I gave him a hug and we went on with our day.

I’m so glad that I didn’t give in to his tantrum that day. It was tough, but it was worth it. My son learned a valuable lesson, and I learned that I can be a strong parent, even when it’s hard.

Even though the tantrum happened at home, I think the moral of the story is still the same: don’t give in to tantrums. It teaches kids that they can get what they want by throwing a fit. Instead, stay calm and stand your ground. Your child will eventually learn that tantrums are not an effective way to get what they want.

Tantrums can be tough to deal with, but they’re just a phase. With patience and consistency, you can get through them. And in the meantime, try to enjoy the show. Because let’s be honest, tantrums can be pretty funny sometimes.

Remember, you are not alone. Many parents struggle with their children’s tantrums. With patience and consistency, you can learn to manage your child’s tantrums and help them to develop healthy coping mechanisms.

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