Boys vs. Girls: A Look at ASD Diagnosis Criteria Through a Gender Lens

Alright, dads of the delightful Aspies out there, gather around the digital campfire because today, we’re tackling the age-old question: Are the dudes getting all the attention in the ASD world? That’s right, we’re peering through the gender lens at the ASD diagnosis criteria to see if the girls are getting the short end of the stick.

Picture this: Johnny is rocking back and forth, lining up his toy cars with the focus of a chess grandmaster at a world championship. Classic ASD, right? But what about Susie, who’s quietly scripting the entire “Frozen” movie in the corner? Ah, she’s just being a girl, they say. But wait – could it be that our diagnostic criteria have been playing favorites?

For ages, ASD has been a boys’ club. Not because girls aren’t invited, but maybe – just maybe – because we’ve been reading the invitation all wrong. The boys are loud about their ASD traits, like a kangaroo in a china shop. Meanwhile, the girls might be silently scripting, daydreaming, or even camouflaging like a ninja in a ballet class.

So, dads, it’s time to ask: Are we missing the mark with our lasses because we’re too focused on the lads? It’s like we’ve been using a recipe book for pavlova to make a meat pie. Sure, they’re both Aussie delights, but let’s not mix up our desserts with our mains, right?

The truth is, girls with ASD often have to perform a daily magic act – they’re the Houdinis of social camouflage. They mimic their peers, hide their quirks, and sometimes even become social chameleons. And all this while, our good ol’ ASD criteria are out there looking for the wrong magic show.

In the end, it’s about getting it right for all our kids, whether they’re die-hard footy fans or the next Picasso in a tutu. So, let’s sharpen our pencils (or our understanding, to be less literal) and start ticking off the right boxes for both our boys and our girls.

Because at the end of the day, whether it’s Johnny with his cars or Susie with her “Let It Go” rendition, they both deserve their spot in the ASD clubhouse. And that, my fellow dads, is how we make sure no kid is left behind in the great Outback of neurodiversity.


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